AGW Transformational Vocabulary
In short: When we change the words that describe situations we change how we perceive the situation. Changing the words changes our perception.
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People with impoverished vocabulary live an impoverished emotional life; people with rich vocabularies have a multi hued palette of colors with which to paint their experience, not only for others but for themselves as well.
Simply by changing your habitual vocabulary—the words you consistently use to describe the emotions of your life—you can instantaneously change how you think, how you feel, and how you live.
If you get upset you lose control. If you lose control the other guy wins.
**Words that we attach to our experience become our experience. **
If three people can have the same exact experience, yet one person feels rage, another feels anger, and the third feels annoyance, then obviously the sensations are being changed by each person’s translation. Since words are our primary tool for interpretation or translation, the way we label our experience immediately changes the sensations produced in our nervous systems. You and I must realize that words do indeed create a biochemical effect.
Words create a biochemical effect.
Words form the thread on which we string our experiences
Words shape our beliefs; They impact our actions. Words are the fabric from which all questions are cut.
Without knowing the force of words, it is impossible to know men.
Different People Have completely different maps-models of reality
Different people have completely different maps/models of reality.
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Is it possible that by adopting someone else’s habitual vocabulary, you began to adopt their emotional patterns as well? If you have adopted not only words but their volume, intensity, and tonality. (also look at yat)
If an assemblage of words you’re using is creating states that disempower you, get rid of those words and replace them with those that empower you!
If all you do is change the word, then experience does not change. But if using the word causes you to break your own habitual emotional patterns, then everything changes.
Transformational vocabulary: vocabulary that transforms our emotional experience. Breaks unresourceful patterns, makes us smile, produces totally different feelings, changes our states, and allows us to ask more intelligent questions. quality-questions-create-quality-life
To soften emotional intensity even further you can use modifiers;
- I am just a bit peeved.
- I am feeling a tad out of sorts.
- I am beginning to get a smidge cranky.
The words we use have a profound effect on our experience of reality.
Tension in the stomach prior to performance can be interpreted as “stage fright” or as “excitement”. One is an enemy another an ally.
Negative Emotion/Action Signal. I am feeling… Transforms Into. I am feeling… angry -> disenchanted afraid -> uncomfortable anxious -> expectant anxious -> a little concerned confused -> curious depressed -> calm before action depressed -> not on top of it depressed -> on the road to turn-around destroyed -> set back that stinks -> that’s a little aromatic pissed off -> tinkled disappointed -> underwhelmed disappointed -> delayed disgusted -> surprised dread -> challenge embarrassed -> aware embarrassed -> stimulated exhausted -> recharging exhausted -> a little droopy failure -> stumble failure -> learning failure -> lost (competing to grow) fear -> wonderment fucked up -> inconvenient Oh fuck! -> Aww jamba! fearful -> curious frightened -> inquiring frustrated -> challenged frustrated -> fascinated furious -> passionate humiliated -> uncomfortable humiliated -> surprised hurt -> bothered hurt -> dinged I hate -> I prefer impatient -> anticipating insecure -> questioning insulted -> misunderstood insulted -> misinterpreted irritated -> stimulated irritated -> ruffled jealous -> overloving lazy -> storing energy lonely -> available lonely -> temporarily on my own lost -> searching nervous -> energized overload -> stretching overwhelmed -> some imbalance overwhelmed -> busy overwhelmed -> challenged overwhelmed -> in demand overwhelmed -> many opportunities overwhelmed -> moving and shaking painful -> uncomfortable petrified -> challenged rejected -> deflected rejected -> learning rejected -> underappreciated rejected -> overlooked rejected -> misunderstood sad -> sorting my thoughts scared -> excited oh, shit -> oh, poo sick -> cleansing stressed -> busy stressed -> blessed stressed -> energized stupid -> discovering stupid -> unresourceful stupid -> learning stupid -> ignorant of something ([[c3a19aajqfqtclxp5cggwqw terrible -> different wrong -> incomplete Good word -> Great word I am feeling… -> I am feeling… alert -> energized all right -> superb attractive -> gorgeous awake -> raring to go comfortable -> smashing confident -> unstoppable content -> serene cool -> outrageous curious -> fascinated determined -> unstoppable deeply understand -> internalize energized -> turbo-charged enthusiastic -> excited excited -> ecstatic excited -> impassioned excited -> outrageous fantastic -> fabulous fast -> ballistic feeling good -> cosmically charged feeling good -> just tremendous fine -> awesome focused -> energized focused -> laser-focused fortunate -> Unbelievable blessed full -> replete fun -> vivacious glad -> over the moon good -> excellent good -> dynamite good -> Just doesn’t get any better good -> magic good -> vibrant great -> exuberant great -> killer great -> incredible great -> phenomenal happy -> ecstatic happy -> jazzed happy -> stoked, exuberant, hyped happy -> blissed honesty -> integrity intense -> laser-like interested -> enthralled interesting -> captivating like -> enraptured like -> idolize like -> relish loved -> adored loving -> exuding love loving -> passionate motivated -> compelled motivated -> driven to motivated -> juiced moving forward -> moving at warp speed making things better -> pursuit of excellence nice -> fantastic nice -> spectacular no problem -> happy to not bad -> couldn’t be better okay -> energized okay -> fantastic okay -> perfect paying attention -> focused peaceful -> serene pleasant -> monumental powerful -> invincible politeness -> chivarly pretty good -> coolamundo pretty good -> great pumped up -> soaring quick -> explosive resourceful -> brilliant satisfied -> satiated secure -> centered secure -> confident secure -> emboldened secure -> empowered smart -> gifted stimulated -> charged up strong -> invincible super -> booming tasty -> sumptuous terrific -> ecstatic well done -> impeccable
- Evolve FROM: ‘I am really upset’/’I am really worried about this’
- TO: ‘I am a little bit concerned about something. Can you help me?’
** Challenge is not with the person but with their behavior.**
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