How to Establish Clear Goals
Genie Laborde way: Have clear outcome
Use See, Feel, Hear terminology
Outcome specification is more specific than "I want X amount of money".
Instead of using abstract numbers of desire, Outcomes are described in terms of:
- You see.
- You hear.
- You feel.
Be specific. Use SEE, FEEL, HEAR terms.
Questions that should be answered
- What do you see?
- What do you hear?
- How do you feel?
Outcome change, Changes our interpretation of Objective Reality
Specifying an outcome can immediately change what you see, hear and feel. - Genie-Laborde
Clarity of outcome points you in the direction towards it
References
- Reference: Book: Influence with Integrity
Arnold: who do you want to become
The first rule is: Trust yourself
And what I mean by that is, so many young people are getting so much advice from their parents and from their teachers and from everyone. But what is most important is that you have to dig deep down, dig deep down and ask yourselves, who do you want to be? Not what, but who.
And I'm talking about not what your parents and teachers want you to be, but you. I’m talking about figuring out for yourselves what makes you happy, no matter how crazy it may sound to other people. - Arnold-Schwarzenegger
Imagine for yourself a character, a model personality, whose example you determine to follow, in private as well as in public. - Epictetus
First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do. - Epictetus
From this instant on, vow to stop disappointing yourself. Separate yourself from the mob. Decide to be extraordinary and do what you need to do--now. - Epictetus
Tim Ferris way: What would excite me.
Tim-Ferris writes that asking a question “What do you want?” is not a good starting point as its too imprecise. He states that “What are my goals?” also falls short of the mark. The question he suggests is “What would excite me?”
Establish the WHY
Why do you want become the person that you want to become.
Why do you want to achieve your SFH-Outcome (See, Feel, Hear).
Why you will prioritize this purpose above other distractions to laser focus on the path to getting there.
Coming up with Magnetic goals
The best goals aren't the goals that you have to push yourself to work towards.
But rather goals that you are magnetized towards. Goals that pull you towards them.
Goals that you can easily be obsessed with. That are easy to make trade off decisions for. As you are going to have to say NO to a lot of other things if your goals are ambitious and you actually develop systems to move towards them.
Related
Hell Yea! or No
Use this rule if you’re often over-committed or too scattered.
If you’re not saying “HELL YEAH!” about something, say no.
When deciding whether to do something, if you feel anything less than “Wow! That would be amazing! Absolutely! Hell yeah!” — then say no.
When you say no to most things, you leave room in your life to really throw yourself completely into that rare thing that makes you say “HELL YEAH!”
Every event you get invited to. Every request to start a new project. If you’re not saying “HELL YEAH!” about it, say no.
We’re all busy. We’ve all taken on too much. Saying yes to less is the way out. - https://sive.rs/hellyeah - Derek-Sivers
The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say NO to almost everything. - Warren-Buffet
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